Many traditional cultures had regular occasions where men would gather together with elders, who would lead them in working with how to meet the challenges of being a man in a wise, compassionate and balanced way.

Following that inspiration, Don David Wiley facilitates an annual gathering of men, called Ukilái, which has been held around the world—in Australia, Mexico, the United States, and now in Scotland, to make this needed men’s work easily accessible to those living in the United Kingdom and Europe. Ukilái serves as a critical deepening and support for the monthly men’s fires many of you may already be attending.

This page contains some easy-to-use materials to help you spread the word through email and social media.

This is truly important work restoring a sense of well-being and balance, not only in men, but in our culture at large. Thank you for your help in spreading the word. If you have any questions or would like to help with the program in other ways, please write to

Information on Upcoming Events

The upcoming event pages have detailed information, including pricing, contact information, and instructions on how to register:

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Ukilái: An Annual Gathering of Men


In these videos, Don David Wiley talks about the issues facing men and how Ukilái attempts to restore a critical missing piece in the development of men in our culture:


Here are some articles on Life Cycle Living published in past editions of Around the Fire:

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Word of Mouth

Ukilái is so valuable to help men renew and stay true to their vision. But what do we say? Having wrestled with the same issues ourselves, here are some ideas to get you going. First off, there’s no need to sell anyone on anything. Fire, community and the cycles of our human lives are as natural to being human as the air we breathe and the water we drink. Focusing on one’s own interest, curiosity, longing, and direct experience are always a good place to start.

If you have any questions, we’d love to hear from you »